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A Letter to the One Who Waits

Dear Friend,

You’ve been on my mind this week, as you’ve been waiting for your Avenue Women’s Center appointment. I imagine you’re probably feeling anxious and frustrated. You have much on your plate.  Know that you’ve already shown courage by reaching this point in your journey. Talking with you earlier, and being impressed with your courage, inspired me to write this letter. I’m not normally a huge writer, but would love it if this gave you some of the support you deserve!

Waiting is always tough. When you’re waiting to access important information about an unexpected pregnancy, I know it can feel extremely difficult. You’re probably longing to do something. To reclaim your sense of control and find a solution as soon as possible. At the same time, you’ve likely heard how important it is to learn where you stand with this pregnancy… to know what your options are, whether or not your pregnancy is viable, and other critical information. Understanding what’s really going on with your body will equip you to take informed next steps while prioritizing your own health. I know it can feel exhausting, but you are going to make it. You will gain that information and find the best possible solution for yourself.

I want to encourage you to make a wise choice by holding off on finalizing your pregnancy decision until after your Avenue appointment. And, just because you’re waiting for that medical insight doesn’t mean that your decision-making process is stagnant. This waiting period can be extremely valuable, because it gives extra time that you need to really process your circumstances, seek support, and contemplate your next steps. Even though it can feel like there’s pressure to decide quickly, most women facing situations like yours do have plenty of time to engage in a thorough decision-making process before any pregnancy options become unavailable (if you have questions about those limits, the Avenue team can help you assess). And, at its core, this is a decision you really want to get “right.”

But besides the decision itself, I also want to say that there’s something beneficial to just “sitting with” circumstances. I’ve learned that there’s value to a woman insisting on space to care for herself – pushing away external pressure in order to make sure she’s making a decision as rooted as possible from a place of health and peace. You want to make sure you’ve confidently chosen the option that will stand the test of time. You want to know that you gave adrenaline a chance to retreat and you allowed solid processing to be in charge. It’s always worth investing in yourself like that!

Remember – You’re a resilient person. You can embrace your autonomy and use this waiting period to your advantage!

I’ve tried to share my best encouragement with you… and also… I still want you to know that if you’re wrestling with doubts about how fast you have to move or about your appointment plan, I want you to please follow up with Avenue! Please pick up the phone or shoot us a text. Everyone here understands how challenging this journey can be. We’re available to equip and encourage you. Our goal is to empower you with all the information and support you need to discover your own best outcome, so never hesitate to reach out! If your timeline ever needs more speed or more support, that’s why we’re here!

We are going to get through this. You are going to get to a point of unwavering confidence, knowing you gave yourself every advantage in making your best decision. Keep waiting. Embrace productive thoughtfulness. Reject worry. Treat yourself to the “venti.” Remember you’re not alone. Hold your courage.

You’re amazing and you are going to make it through.

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.