Sometimes relationships do not always align with our expectations. It can be disappointing to learn your partner might not be the person you thought he was. Or perhaps you were hoping his character would have changed after dating him for a while. No matter your circumstances, please know you are not at fault for any of the negative traits of your partner. A potential pregnancy may have inspired some reflections about your relationship. And you may be wondering what changes this news may bring. Where do you turn if you’re unsure what your status is with your partner? How do you face an unexpected pregnancy if you’re concerned about being “just another woman” to him?
It’s normal to be worried about what to do next after learning about an unexpected pregnancy. Partner dynamics can be complicated. And Avenue Women’s Center is here to help. Receive relevant services and accurate information to help you navigate your pregnancy decision. Our expert staff will provide information regarding your options of abortion, adoption, and parenting, assisting with communicating with those who may be involved in your pregnancy plan. Within a safe, nonjudgmental environment, receive the services and support you need to feel confident in your pregnancy decision.
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What Does My Relationship Mean for the Pregnancy?
You may have started working through some of your initial reactions to learning you’re pregnant. Now, it’s important to confirm your condition first before you contemplate your next steps. You can do this through a healthcare provider or at a first-step options clinic. By contacting a professional instead of taking a pregnancy test alone, you can ask questions and potentially receive advice on how to let others in on your news.
Every relationship is different. And you may feel nervous about telling your partner that you’re pregnant. If you know a little about his history, perhaps you’re aware that you’re not the only woman he has been intimate with. Is this something that bothers you, and is this one of the reasons why you may be hesitant to talk to him about the pregnancy?
It may be a good idea to prepare for this conversation ahead of time. This can reduce the chances of you becoming tongue-tied. And knowing what you may want to say ahead of time can help you speak with confidence. In addition, it may be to your benefit to have a third party present during the conversation who can serve as your advocate. This may include a trusted friend or relative, or a professional resource, such as a counselor, a spiritual leader, or a pregnancy consultant.
While you may be concerned about your partner’s reaction to your news, contemplating how to handle his response can come after you talk with him. Thinking about the “what ifs” can lead you to feel overwhelmed or stressed. For now, try to focus on being honest about the pregnancy, and finding the right setting to tell him.
After Telling Him, What’s Next?
Once you’ve told him that you’re pregnant, give him some time to process the news. Although you may have been experiencing symptoms or had questions about the possibility of pregnancy for some time, this may be a brand new development to him. Allow him space to respond, while also considering if there are other support networks that may be beneficial to rely upon.
In the event that your partner cannot be there for you, who can you turn to for help? Do you have any other personal relationships to fall back on? Professional resources are available as well to work with you during this time.
When faced with an unexpected pregnancy, figuring out how to tell your partner when you may have fears about being “just another woman” to him can make the process seem intimidating. Every woman’s situation is unique. And your partner’s previous history does not necessarily have to have any bearing on your decision.
Take some time to carefully consider your three choices of abortion, adoption, and parenting. Regardless of your relationship with your partner, these options are likely to impact you the most. Thinking through your next steps in the pregnancy can be helpful to process, prior to sharing the news with your partner.
Are you facing challenges with your partner, on top of being concerned about a possible pregnancy? Avenue Women’s Center provides next-step services to equip you (and, if you’d like, your partner) in making a pregnancy decision. Our six centers provide limited medical services to confirm your pregnancy, along with confidential consultations regarding your options. Receive accurate information about abortion, adoption, and parenting in a confidential environment that allows you to process through your questions either individually or as a couple.
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The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.