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Are you navigating an unexpected pregnancy and a disagreement with your family simultaneously? Maybe you’re experiencing conflict in a relationship with a parent, sibling, spouse, or another family member. Perhaps you’re even living in the same household as this person (or these persons). The dynamics between you probably feel particularly tense if that’s the case. Figuring out your next steps regarding your pregnancy and your family relationships will likely be challenging. Be encouraged that you don’t have to walk through this process on your own. Unconditional emotional support is available to you!
Coping with an unexpected pregnancy is stressful enough without also having to mitigate family conflict. So, if you’re trying to manage both, you’re probably feeling exhausted and overwhelmed today. Avenue Women’s Center is here to help. We provide free and confidential early pregnancy services to equip women with the tools they need to navigate a pregnancy decision-making process feeling confident and informed.
Learn more about Avenue! We’ve been trusted providers of first-step pregnancy support in the western Chicago metro area since 1981.
When Family Conflict Affects Pregnancy Decision-Making
Conflict doesn’t always look similar from one family or individual to the next, but clashing with others (especially loved ones) now and then is unavoidable. The tension that you’re experiencing with your family may or may not relate to your unexpected pregnancy. But chances are, it’s influencing your decision-making process. Perhaps your fears about parenting are linked with fears of losing your family’s support. You may be worried that they wouldn’t provide the practical or emotional support you’d need to choose parenting due to the recent friction. Or, maybe you’re concerned that existing tension would increase if you had a baby. Know that it’s possible to find healing and build a healthy support network- with or without the backing of your family- regardless of the circumstances you’re facing.
Building a Strong Support Network
In any unexpected or intentional pregnancy situation, building a strong support system is critical. It’s important to confide in someone you trust, especially if the positive pregnancy result you’ve received is causing significant stress. Maybe you wish that a member (or members) of your family could be supportive. If that isn’t possible right now due to a conflict that you’re navigating, this may be something that you need to grieve. Just know that you have options of other people to go to- even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. Consider speaking with a close and reliable friend, a mentor, a professional counselor, a faith leader, or a pregnancy consultant. Think broadly about your support network. Lean on different people with different strengths who can help you navigate your pregnancy journey in different ways.
Discovering Healthy Motivation for a Confident Pregnancy Choice
If you want to seek restoration in your family relationships, don’t give up hope. Resolving conflict will likely require a healing process and steps taken toward reconciliation on both sides. All of this is possible for the future. In the meantime, don’t let the tension that you’re experiencing with your family become a main driver of your choice for abortion, adoption, or parenting. Focus on your personal strengths and available resources. Explore alternative sources of emotional support, and ask yourself which option(s) your values, beliefs, and instincts are pointing you towards. If these factors form the foundation of your decision instead of fear, you’ll likely step into any pregnancy outcome with greater confidence.
Your feelings toward your family are valid, but conflict may try to disrupt your process of making a grounded pregnancy decision nevertheless. Avenue Women’s Center is here to help you navigate your pregnancy journey with loved ones when that’s possible, and build a thriving support system no matter what. We’re passionate about providing high-quality, no-cost services with the highest standards of empathy and professionalism.
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*Avenue Women’s Center is a limited medical clinic that offers medical-grade pregnancy tests, options consultations, and limited medical ultrasounds. We do not provide professional counseling, but we’re here to support you and your family as you navigate the days ahead.
The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.