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“Considering Abortion Because I Feel Bad that I Cheated”

If you find yourself contemplating abortion after cheating on your partner, chances are, you’re coping with some very complex circumstances and a lot of emotional pain.  You may be married, dating, or in a committed relationship.  Perhaps you know the pregnancy resulted from this other sexual encounter.  Maybe the paternity is unclear.  But you’re wrestling with guilt, and, for one reason or another, this is prompting you to consider ending the pregnancy.

Situations like the one you’re facing can be very difficult to navigate, even when an unexpected pregnancy hasn’t taken place.  You may be feeling extremely stressed and confused.  Our caring staff at Avenue Women’s Center is available to meet you in that challenging space.  We’re a first-step pregnancy center offering free, confidential services at no cost to persons in and outside of Chicagoland.  Our supportive services include limited medical ultrasounds, options consultations, and more.

Learn about Avenue!  After forty years of faithful service, we’re still passionate about equipping women and couples with the practical and emotional support they need in the wake of an unexpected pregnancy.

Accessing the Care You Need

Taking care of yourself emotionally will be important to both your pregnancy journey and your relationship.  But caring for your physical wellness is critical too.  Early pregnancy services may be key to coping with your circumstances.  Begin with a reliable pregnancy test.  Once the pregnancy is confirmed, a limited medical ultrasound can provide useful information, like clarification on how far along you are.  This will influence which abortion method(s) and other options you’re eligible for.  A scan can show if there are early pregnancy risks involved as well, and if it’s necessary to seek medical care outside of an abortion.  Every woman’s body (and every pregnancy) is unique.  A clear grasp of where you stand with this pregnancy will equip you to be mindful of your own health.  It may also help to have this information as you share your pregnancy journey with your partner or others, if you decide to go that route, because it will equip you for your next best steps.

Avenue Women’s Center offers practical services like lab-quality pregnancy tests and limited medical ultrasounds at no cost, along with pregnancy consultations.  A consultation is an opportunity to process your thoughts and feelings with a caring professional, gather information about your options, and learn about the resources available to you.  These resources may expand beyond the scope of your pregnancy situation.  Financial assistance, housing support, medical or mental health care, and paternity testing resources are just a few examples of services we can help you connect with.  And we’re all about meeting your needs with the highest standards of compassion and professionalism.  Avenue is a safe, welcoming, confidential space to receive accurate information and encouragement.

Creating a Dialogue to Pursue Deeper Healing

Circumstances that involve dishonesty or cheating generally call for deeper healing, and healthy communication plays a major role in that.  Consider opening an honest dialogue with your partner about this unexpected pregnancy and cheating.  Listen to his thoughts and feelings concerning both these dilemmas.  Express yourself genuinely and take responsibility for your actions.  This may be a long process with difficult conversations, but if reconciliation is desired, these are important steps to take.  Beginning to heal relationship wounds will help you and your partner navigate this unexpected pregnancy with a stronger sense of unity and mutual support.  His backing may be more important to you than ever right now.  However, no matter how your partner responds, or what the future holds for your relationship or this unexpected pregnancy, Avenue Women’s Center is in your corner.

A Strong Foundation for Your Best Pregnancy Choice

Maybe you’re considering abortion because you’re longing to “undo” a decision in your past.  Maybe you’re afraid carrying to term would further complicate your relationship.  As hard as this may be to hear, ending your pregnancy won’t necessarily solve the complex problems you’re facing.  Your past choices cannot be erased by an abortion or anything else.  So, it may be unwise to let feelings of guilt about the cheating become a driving force behind your pregnancy decision.  Address these feelings, yes, and take sure steps toward healing and growth.  But lean primarily on your core values, beliefs, and personal strengths for guidance concerning this pregnancy.

You have a lot on your plate. You’re probably facing some challenging conversations and choices in the days ahead.  But you’re one-hundred percent capable of managing this unexpected pregnancy and your relationship challenges with strength and resilience.  Avenue Women’s Center is here for you every step of the way.

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The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.