People who choose to get an abortion report having many different causes for doing so. Their motives may be tied to financial concerns, limited resources, lack of support, and tons of other factors. Maybe one of the reasons why you’re contemplating this path is because you identify as someone who’s, “bad with kids.” It’s possible that you just don’t like being around children (it’s okay to acknowledge that!). You may feel out of your element when you’re with them, and you may doubt that they feel comfortable around you. If having kids has ever been something that you’ve wanted for your own life, you probably didn’t picture this happening any time soon. So, news of an unexpected pregnancy is bound to feel earth-shattering.
An unexpected pregnancy is almost always an extremely jarring experience. If you’re having a difficult time coping- as most people do- finding reliable support is key. Avenue Women’s Center partners with individuals, couples, and families who are navigating circumstances like yours. We’re a limited medical clinic that offers no-cost early pregnancy services. We’re here to meet you with compassion and respect (never judgment), no matter what pregnancy outcome you’re considering or why you’re considering it.
Learn more about our free, confidential first-step pregnancy services! We’d love to be a part of your support system, while helping you build your support network in other ways.
3 Tidbits to Remember While You Process Your Decision
If you’re not comfortable around kids, that’s fair! Each of us has our own unique skillset when it comes to interacting with people. However, it’s important to keep several things in mind as you engage in your pregnancy decision-making process. Consider these points (in no particular order)!
- It’s better to make a pregnancy decision from a place of confidence than a place of insecurity or fear. We all wrestle with self-doubt from time to time. We all feel more adept in some situations than we do in others. That’s part of being human. Your feelings about your struggles and vulnerabilities may be valid, but they don’t have to (and probably shouldn’t) drive the significant choices that you make in your life. Ask yourself which of your qualities you do feel confident in, and how you can grow in the areas that you feel insecure about. Allow these positive thoughts to enlighten your best way forward. Chances are, you’re way more capable than you realize, and focusing on your strengths will help you embrace this.
*Remember that being uncomfortable or awkward with something isn’t the same as being “bad” with it. Try not to use categorically negative, over-generalized words to describe your own abilities- even in your own head. This will misrepresent your true capabilities and undercut your confidence.
- As you reflect on your motives for this pregnancy decision, take a holistic approach. What are your values and beliefs? What are your instincts telling you about your options (abortion, adoption, and parenting), and how do you feel when you think about each of them? Take the time that you need to process these questions, and let the answers play a role in informing your next steps.
- Everything about your future is subject to change. We humans are naturally resilient and always adapting (physically, emotionally, socially, spiritually, etc.). Our circumstances are ever-changing as well. Keep in mind that you won’t always see your pregnancy situation from the perspective that you’re seeing it from now. Remember that you’re going to face uncertainty and risk in your future no matter which pregnancy decision you make. It’s better to make peace with this reality and accept it rather than let it frighten and assert power over you.
At Avenue Women’s Center, we believe that a well-informed and carefully considered pregnancy decision is an empowered pregnancy decision. We’re passionate about equipping individuals with the encouragement and resources they need to move forward with confidence. Every person is fully capable of embracing her own best pregnancy outcome. We’d love to partner with you on your own journey of discovering which next steps are right for you.
Reach out and speak with one of our expert team members! We offer free, confidential medical-grade pregnancy tests, options consultations, and more.
The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.