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“Considering Abortion Because I’m Scared of Being in Labor”

Are you scared of being in labor?  Maybe you’re embarrassed by this fear and reluctant to seek help.  If so, know that you have nothing to be ashamed of.  Giving birth is a very significant event- physically, mentally, emotionally, etc.  It’s completely normal to feel intimidated.  But remember, your healthiest decision (for abortion, adoption, or parenting) will be grounded in your strengths, not your fears.  It’s possible to step out in courage- whatever that may look like for you- and lean into your best personal outcome, despite the worries that you’ll face along your journey.

If you’re going through an unexpected pregnancy today, and feeling anxious about the future, contacting Avenue Women’s Center would be a great first step.  We’re an early pregnancy center with six locations in the western Chicago metro area.  Avenue has been serving persons wrestling with circumstances and concerns like yours for over forty years!  We’re here to provide accurate, useful information and caring support, so you feel equipped to take confident steps forward.

Learn more about us!  Avenue provides first-step pregnancy services at no cost!

Understanding the Fear of Childbirth

Fears like yours are very common.  Labor always comes with potential health risks (as do medical procedures such as abortion), so it’s natural for anxiety to weigh heavily on a person’s mind during the waiting process.  Tokophobia is an actual condition attributed to some persons with an extreme fear of giving birth, according to the Cleveland Clinic.  Of course, not everyone with a specific fear of labor has tokophobia.  Perhaps you struggle with a fear of childbirth that’s less excessive, but still very bothersome and influential to your decision-making.  The fear of labor and delivery may flow from other anxieties too, like the fear of physical pain, doctors, or being touched.  Individual situations are unique and often complex.  But all symptoms of fear can be addressed.

Confiding in Someone

Does a part of you want to explore the options of parenting or creating an adoption plan?  If so, it may be especially important to speak with someone like a medical or mental health professional about your fears of going into labor.  Learn what the labor and delivery process entails!  Look into options available to help women manage being in labor (birthing classes, epidurals, etc.).  A good education paves the way to understanding, which may lead to peace of mind.  You’ll be best equipped to make confident, informed decisions regarding your pregnancy options if you’re aware of all the relevant facts. Stress management techniques, therapeutic methods, and certain medications may have a positive impact on your mood as well.  A qualified professional can help you identify your best approach to coping with anxiety.

Remember, seeking help is never something to feel embarrassed about.  On the contrary, it demonstrates courage!  Don’t let shame overcome your thought patterns and get in the way of healing.  Trustworthy, non-judgmental people are available to meet you in your fear and help you discover freedom.  Consider confiding in a family member, wise friend, mentor, faith leader, or pregnancy consultant… someone who will continue to walk this road with you, come what may.

Our expert staff at Avenue is passionate about empowering women to make empowered choices by providing no-cost pregnancy services and emotional support.  We’re here to help you strengthen and expand your support network.  Do you believe it may benefit you to connect with a doctor, mental health professional, or community resource?  We can help point you in the right direction.

Anticipating the final outcome may be one of the hardest things about managing an unexpected pregnancy.  But it’s possible to make a choice that’s both courageous and wise, while being mindful of your own health.  If you decide that continuing this pregnancy is your best way forward, remember that the labor process- though potentially scary- will be temporary.  You have tons of support available.  And you’re brave enough to handle whatever lies ahead. 

When anxiety goes unchecked, it can naturally take control of decision-making.  And making significant choices based on fear is more likely to lead to regret than making choices based on strengths.  Whether you have a strong support system, or feel totally alone, Avenue Women’s Center is here.  Schedule an appointment with us today!

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.