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Do I Have to Tell My Partner I Want an Abortion?

Making a pregnancy decision is difficult. Even if you are leaning towards a certain option, you may be wondering if you should tell your partner. If you’ve decided on abortion, you may be asking, “do I have to tell my partner?”

Even though legally you are not required to get your partner’s consent before an abortion, you may consider hearing him out before moving forward. Sometimes getting up the courage to tell your partner what you’re thinking of is the most challenging step.

In this blog we offer some practical steps towards sharing the news with your partner if you decide to. 

Sharing the News

We know how stressful breaking the news of your pregnancy probably was with your partner, and now discussing abortion could seem even more complicated. Maybe you’re not sure how they will react. It can be helpful to talk beforehand to a supportive person who can help provide insight or perspective, such as a professional counselor, faith leader, school counselor, or pregnancy consultant. 

If you feel uncomfortable when it comes to interacting with your partner (due to any form of verbal or physical harm), remember that your personal safety is a top priority. Never put yourself in danger if you feel like your partner’s reaction will not be appropriate. If you are ever in a situation where you are at risk for physical harm, call 911 right away.

Stay Calm.

Things can get heated really quickly when it comes to big decisions like pregnancy. 

Do your best when sharing the news about your potential pregnancy decision to remain calm and collected. Try not to react out of frustration or anger, but know that ultimately you have the final say. Explain how you came to the conclusion of considering an abortion and why.

Listen Well

Now it’s your partner’s turn. Listening is key, even if you think you’re set on the option of abortion. 

Try your best not to react, but listen with the intention of hearing your partner out. He may surprise you with his insight and suggestions. 

Make the Final Decision

Again, you have the final say in your pregnancy decision.

Consider learning about all your options as partners before fully committing to your decision. Though this may be a stretch for you, understanding each option will give you the clarity you need to take your next step.

Don’t regret not being fully informed beforehand. You can do this! At Avenue Women’s Center, we can better inform you (and your partner, if you choose) about all your options at no cost to you. Schedule your appointment today.

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.