Situations often arise in life that can catch us by surprise. You may have been struggling to cope with the possibility that you and your partner may be breaking up soon. Relationships can be complicated, and it’s usually disappointing when things do not work out how we thought they would. But just as you might have been acclimating yourself to this, you learned that you’re pregnant. An unexpected pregnancy can lead some women on a reflective journey. As you think about your options, questions about the future may arise. What does this mean for you and your partner now? How can you begin to craft a plan for a long-term decision? What direction do you feel led to and why? Is there information that is specifically helpful to consider when going through an unexpected pregnancy during a breakup?
Facing an unexpected pregnancy in the midst of a breakup can be confusing. Avenue Women’s Center is here to help you map out your next steps as you sort through your options. When you schedule an appointment with us, you’ll meet with expert pregnancy consultants in a confidential environment. We’ll answer any of your questions about abortion, adoption, and parenting while taking the time to listen to your personal story. Receive the services and support you need to take the next steps in your unexpected pregnancy.
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How Might a Breakup Impact My Unexpected Pregnancy?
The end of a relationship can be emotional. Change like this is hard, even if you had sensed it was coming. For some women, there may be a mixture of complicated feelings after a breakup. These emotions might have been heightened by your pregnancy. You may need time to come to terms with your feelings.
This is why you may want to wait before committing to one of your options. You may have a lot of things to work through before taking steps toward a larger change. Instead of keeping your feelings to yourself, it can be helpful to talk to someone. Try letting your feelings flow in a healthy way by talking with your friends and/or family. They can listen to what you’re going through and provide encouragement.
It may also be helpful to journal, exercise, or engage in some type of relaxing activity. This can help you center your mind and connect with your emotions. Professional resources can even be of assistance. A counselor or a pregnancy consultant can help you process your situation and offer nonjudgmental support.
When you feel ready, these resources can guide you through the steps of finding the right solution for yourself.
Should I Tell My Partner About the Pregnancy?
You may have complicated feelings toward your partner. This can make it difficult to determine if you should share your pregnancy news with him or not. Maybe a part of you feels like you’re ready to move on. Or, a small bit of you wants him to stay. It may even be the case that you’re just not sure what you want right now.
It’s okay to give yourself time to think. If you tell your partner about the pregnancy, what might you expect from him? Do you want him to be involved in your decision? How might this affect your relationship?
The role you may want your partner to play may vary depending on which option you choose.
Parenting:
Would you want him to support you? Is co-parenting with him something you’ve considered? If you decided to parent on your own, what arrangements might you expect from him?
Abortion:
Do you want him to be with you as you gather information? Do you or your partner have strong feelings about abortion? Who can the two of you consult for advice or more information about this choice?
Adoption:
How do you and your partner feel about adoption? Are you thinking you want him to be there as you learn more about it? What sort of adoption arrangement are you both leaning towards?
If your partner is not involved in your decision, support is still available. It’s ok if you and your partner cannot work things out. Going through a breakup while you’re pregnant is challenging. That’s why it’s a good idea to be kind to yourself. And focus on finding the information you need to make a plan that will work for you.
Are you worried about how to cope with an unexpected pregnancy during a breakup? Avenue Women’s Center can be a supportive partner to you during this time. We’ll meet with you for a private appointment to discuss your options. If you like, we can even talk with you and your partner during your consultation. Our caring staff is here to help you find the best way to move forward. We’ll make sure you have easy access to reliable information as you ask questions about your choices. We do not want you to feel overwhelmed by your circumstances. That’s why we’re dedicated to reducing as many stressors for you as we can.
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The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.