“I just found out my partner cheated on me, and not with just anyone… with someone I thought was my friend. He’s delusional if he thinks I’m still having his baby.”
Have thoughts like these been running through your mind? If so, your emotions may be so raw and intense that you can hardly focus on anything else right now. That would be understandable! If it’s true that your partner cheated on you with your friend, you’ve undoubtedly been wounded by, not one, but two people you cared about and probably trusted. You’re likely feeling shocked, angry, and devastated all at once. Your situation may seem like way too much to even process.
Are you feeling betrayed while managing an unexpected pregnancy, and struggling to know how to move forward? Avenue Women’s Center can help. We’re a limited medical clinic that specializes in first-step pregnancy services, and we’re a safe space to process what you’re going through. Avenue offers free early pregnancy services to help women take informed next steps. And we’re passionate about connecting the people we serve with the emotional support they need to gain back their confidence.
Learn more about Avenue Women’s Center! We’ve been partnering with women from Chicagoland and beyond for over forty years. We’re in your corner too.
Taking this Situation Step-by-Step
The thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing right now are valid. Your partner’s and friend’s actions were wrong, and it would be natural for their inexcusable choices to influence your pregnancy decision-making process. But it’s important to set your own priorities as you navigate the days ahead. Meeting your own physical and emotional needs during this difficult season should be priority number one.
Prioritizing Your Access to a Support Network
Emotional support is often one of the most immediate needs for individuals who’ve been through an experience like yours. If you haven’t already, confide in someone caring and trustworthy about your partner’s cheating and your friend’s betrayal. You may consider connecting with someone like a close family member, a mentor, a mental health professional, or a pregnancy consultant. Share how your experiences are affecting you. Chances are, you’ll need some time to process your overwhelming circumstances… maybe even grieve aspects of your relationship with your partner (and your friend) that feel lost. We humans are built to cope and heal within the context of a supportive community when difficult times come our way. Don’t hesitate to seek out the support that you need.
Prioritizing Your Access to Reliable Information
Before deciding between abortion, adoption, or parenting, it’s wise to find out exactly what you’re facing concerning the pregnancy. (That’s always true, no matter what your circumstances involve). First and foremost, make sure you really are pregnant by taking a confirmation pregnancy test. Then consider getting an ultrasound so you can have information about your unique pregnancy and take your next steps accordingly. A limited medical ultrasound can tell you how far along you are, the chances of your pregnancy ending on its own, and where your pregnancy is located. This information could be key to finding out which pregnancy option(s) you’re eligible for from a medical standpoint and whether or not you need medical assistance beyond an abortion. Avenue provides limited medical ultrasounds at no cost. We also offer pregnancy consultations, allowing you to speak with an expert consultant about all the alternatives and resources available to you. There’s no disadvantage to being better informed when it comes to making a pregnancy decision.
It’s important to make caring for yourself a priority, and our expert team at Avenue is here to help you do just that. All our early pregnancy services are free and confidential. We offer a calm and comfortable space to receive accurate information and genuine support.
Reach out to schedule a visit today! We promise you’ll be met with warmth and empathy.
The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.