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He Doesn’t Want the Responsibility of Parenting

A positive pregnancy test most certainly means one thing: at some point, you are going to have to decide how to move forward. Unfortunately, the process of deciding which path to take isn’t always easy. It can be even more difficult when your partner disagrees with you on which decision to make. Perhaps you find yourself navigating a pregnancy decision, wanting to continue, but he doesn’t want the responsibility of parenting.

Conflicting opinions on which decision to make with your pregnancy can be stressful. That’s why Avenue Women’s Center is here for you. Our centers offer a calming, compassionate space to give you a breath of fresh air. We will meet you where you’re at and give you the information and services you need to process your decision.

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Processing What You Want With This Pregnancy

While right now things may seem tense as you and your partner could be disagreeing on which decision to make regarding your pregnancy, there may be other internal reasons for this disagreement. However, sometimes during a stressful conversation, continuing that conversation without a break doesn’t always lead to reconciliation or a decision. At times it may be best to step back for just a little while to give yourselves time to process on your own. Take the time to connect with yourself again. Thinking about what this pregnancy or any of your options mean to you can be helpful to move forward. You may consider questions such as:

  • Is parenting something that I really desire? Do I want to do this without his support? Do I have the support of others – close friends or family?
  • If I want to carry to term, but end up having an abortion, will I regret it?
  • What are the potential difficulties associated with my options?
  • What are the potential good things that could come with any of these options?

Even though your partner is an important part of your life, so is your decision regarding your pregnancy. If you desire to make one decision, he cannot pressure you into choosing differently.

Processing With Your Partner

As mentioned earlier, it’s always possible there’s something deeper going on. Sometimes getting at the heart of a disagreement takes a lot of listening, patience, and care for the other person. It’s possible he doesn’t feel ready for the responsibility and is worried he won’t be enough. Or maybe this is bringing up a memory of the past, perhaps with his own parents. Extending compassion to your partner is important, but so is being empowered to choose what is best. Make sure you listen to his point of view but that you also express what is important to you!

Sometimes, when you just can’t see eye to eye on something, even after having an open and kind discussion about it, you may need to seek outside, unbiased perspectives. Meeting together with a faith leader, counselor, or somebody like a pregnancy consultant can be eye-opening and foster good communication and creative problem-solving!

Take your first step today and schedule a consultation with one of our caring, nonjudgmental pregnancy consultants. You’ll be given the time and space to process what you’re feeling, what you want for your future, and the options before you. If you’d like, we can meet with both you and your partner to foster a calm environment for an open discussion. We look forward to sitting and chatting with you soon!

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The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.