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How do I break the news to him?

When you think you might be pregnant or recently had a positive test, all sorts of things start swirling through your head. Among the questions and concerns, perhaps you wonder how to share what’s happening with the guy who was involved. How will you break the news to him?

Avenue Women’s Center is a women’s limited medical clinic that has been assisting women facing unplanned pregnancy for over 37 years. Our caring staff are able to guide you through the decision-making process with helpful information and nonjudgmental support. Contact us today for a free pregnancy test or confidential pregnancy options consultation at one of our five DuPage County locations.

How do you break the news to him? Here are some helpful tips.

1. First of all, you should find out if you are pregnant for sure. Often we may have “inklings” or think we are experiencing pregnancy symptoms and assume that means we truly are pregnant. However, so many factors are at play that the only way to be sure is by taking a test. You can take a home test, a blood test at your local clinic or doctor’s office, or a free medical-grade test with us at Avenue Women’s Center. If you live in the Chicagoland area, provide pregnancy tests that are accurate just 10 days after conception…before you even miss a period!

2. Share the news with him in person, when possible. If you have a long-distance relationship, it may be hard to make this happen. However, whenever you can, take the time to sit down and talk face to face. We so often rely on technology for our communication. Texting or emailing have become second-nature. Yet, for something this important, it’s helpful to go about it the old fashioned way. News like this deserves an opportunity to sit down across from each other and share face to face.

3. Create space for the conversation with no distractions. As much as we love our electronic communication, we also love to have our face in our phones, tv, or computer most of the day. When sharing your pregnancy news with him, make sure there are no other distractions around: phones, kids, parents, etc. Take some time to be alone and focus on the conversation at hand.

4. Share and then listen. This is a two-way conversation. Yes, it’s your news to share, but it’s also an opportunity to hear from him. Share what is going on then take some time to hear how he’s thinking and feeling.

5. Don’t feel the need to make a game plan right away. It can be tempting to set up the next action steps during your initial conversation, especially when facing an unplanned pregnancy. However, it can be helpful to take a step back and give yourself some space to process through your decision. Many women find out they are pregnant right after a missed period, which gives you time for your decision, regardless of which option you are looking into. Focus your initial conversation on sharing the news and hearing from each other’s perspectives.

Here at Avenue Women’s Center, we always encourage clients to take things one step at a time. Let us be your first step. Have you confirmed your pregnancy? Our medical-grade pregnancy tests will provide you with accurate results. Are you thinking about a particular pregnancy option? Our client advocates provide important information on each option and a nonjudgmental space to process through your decision. Would you like to break the news to the guy who was involved? Contact us to sit down with one of our staff members today. We have five convenient DuPage County locations—Elmhurst, Glen Ellyn, Naperville, West Chicago, and Wood Dale, Illinois. Don’t delay!

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.