Finding out that your partner is unexpectedly pregnant can be overwhelming and bring up a mix of emotions—fear, confusion, excitement, or even uncertainty. While it’s normal to feel unprepared, how you respond in this moment can make a big difference.
Here are some tips on how to handle an unexpected pregnancy.
1. Stay Calm and Listen
The first thing to do is to stay calm and be present for your partner. She’s likely feeling scared or anxious about the pregnancy, and it’s essential to offer her emotional support. Listen carefully to her thoughts, feelings, and concerns without interrupting or passing judgment, and let her know you’re in this together.
2. Acknowledge Your Own Feelings
It’s okay to feel a range of emotions—whether it’s shock, fear, or even excitement. Take time to process your own feelings, but remember that the initial conversation is about supporting her. Once you’ve both had a chance to reflect, share your thoughts openly and honestly in a respectful manner. Ideally, you two will listen to each other’s feelings and help each other feel understood.
3. Communicate and Explore Options Together
Open communication is key during this time. Ask your partner how she’s feeling about the pregnancy and what she’s considering for the future. Together, you can explore your options (abortion, adoption, or parenting). It’s important to approach the discussion with sensitivity, allowing both of you to share your thoughts without pressure.
While you are a vital part of this process, it’s also important to understand that the decision about how to move forward is ultimately your partner’s choice to make. However, your support and encouragement will help her make a confident decision.
4. Get Educated
Educate yourself on the realities of pregnancy, the options available, and the resources that can help. Understanding the process and what your partner is going through will help you offer better support. Consider attending medical appointments or looking into local resources together.
We’re Here for You Both
At Avenue Women’s Center, we’re here to give you both the space to ask questions and to learn more about each pregnancy option. Plus, we offer free, limited medical ultrasounds that will give your partner the information she needs to protect her safety during the pregnancy.
Contact us today to schedule a free, confidential appointment with your partner. You’re not alone in this. We’re here for you both.
The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.