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Don't Want Baby but My Partner Does

Finding out about an unplanned pregnancy can be a hard reality to face. It can feel troublesome, emotionally draining and, to put it honestly, downright scary. What can make the decision making process even harder is when you feel unsure about having the baby, but your significant other doesn’t. What do you do when…“I don’t want this baby but my significant other does?”

Avenue Women’s Center is a limited medical clinic that has been helping women & their partners navigate a variety of pregnancy situations for over 37 years. We are the first step for those facing unplanned pregnancy and offer many services such as pregnancy tests, options consultations, and helpful information to assist you in the decision-making process. Contact us today for an appointment at one of our five DuPage County locations.

When we are in relationships, whether with a family member, friend or spouse/boyfriend, we know and understand that we aren’t always going to agree on thoughts, decisions, opinions and choices. That’s just the way it goes. However, when it comes to making a hard decision, especially one about a pregnancy, differing opinions with your significant other can make it a bit more challenging.

So, how do you come to a decision when you know you don’t want the baby, but your significant other does? Here are a few steps for you and your partner, to help you along your decision-making journey:

  1. Stand in one another’s shoes – okay, not literally. But try and see the other’s point of view. The best way to do this is by expressing your thoughts and opinions in a calm and composed tone, with no interruptions. Don’t yell or fight, but simply state how you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. Then, switch and allow your significant other to state their opinions and reasoning. Trying to step back, and understand each other’s points of view is a great first step.
  2. Pros and Cons list – together, make a list of pros and cons for each option you have. It might help you see different positives and negatives by listing it out and talking about it.
  3. Reach out – reaching out to an organization can help provide you with information and material to help you as you are figuring out which decision will be best. Avenue Women’s Center is one such organization. During a pregnancy consultation, we offer helpful information on your different pregnancy options. With a caring and compassionate Pregnancy Consultant, you’ll get the opportunity to go over everything and ask any questions you might have.
  4. Work together – remember that you and your significant are together because you care about one another. The more you communicate and gather information on your options, the more able you two will be to make the best decision together.

Making a decision (and agreeing upon it) is no easy task, especially when it comes to an unexpected pregnancy. Avenue Women’s Center is here to help. Our caring client advocates can provide nonjudgmental support & information about all of your pregnancy options. Contact us today and allow us to walk through this journey with you.

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.