If you feel like you need an abortion, but this goes against your religious beliefs, you’re facing a significant dilemma. Reflecting on the relationship between your pregnancy options and your faith is bound to be an important part of your decision-making process. In this blog, we’ll address this challenging topic, attempting to do so with as much compassion, sensitivity, and authenticity as possible.
It’s important to start by saying that the spectrum of religious experience is extremely broad. Aside from the sheer number of religions that exist, people practice and identify with their spiritual beliefs in many different ways. For some, religion is mostly about honoring traditions. Some people have deep, personal relationships with the divine. Others engage with religion out of habit or because their loved ones want them to participate. Many would describe themselves as deeply “spiritual”, but not “religious.” The goal here is not to criticize any religion or faith, form of spiritual practice, or religious approach to abortion. It’s to respectfully understand the ways that people engage with religious beliefs and pregnancy options.
So, why broach this sensitive topic? Because the interaction between religion and pregnancy decision-making is a real source of conflict and pain for millions of women. People need to know that they’re not alone in this struggle. They need to hear that it’s possible to navigate the days ahead with a strong foundation of support. This is what we aim to provide at Avenue Women’s Center. We’re a first-step pregnancy clinic that offers free limited medical services, helping women pursue their own best decisions feeling equipped and informed.
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Where Does This Conflict Come From?
Women who feel this clash between religion and the need for an abortion deal with a wide range of spiritual, relational, and ethical concerns. Some struggle with their consciences. These individuals may have personal beliefs that conflict with the idea of abortion, causing them to feel guilty for even considering this path. Another common misgiving is the fear of punishment by a deity or deities. Family and community- two things that most organized religions value greatly- can also be significant factors. Sadly, many women in faith communities fear backlash from friends and family based on their pregnancy decisions (whether they’re choosing abortion, adoption, or parenting). This particular concern can terrify anyone, whether or not she identifies strongly with her faith. In some contexts, the repercussions can be extreme if and when a family or religious community finds out.
Privacy and Support are Not Mutually Exclusive
Needless to say, an unexpected pregnancy can feel particularly isolating when you believe that some people in your community would judge you for exploring your option of abortion. Know that there are ways to keep your situation private while nurturing your support system. Reaching out to Avenue is always a great option. We provide early pregnancy care with warmth, compassion, integrity, and complete confidentiality. There are probably other people in your life who would make good confidantes too. You might even consider reaching out to someone in your spiritual community, especially if you consider your religion or faith to be a significant part of your identity. Start with one person who you consider to be kind, trustworthy, non-judgmental, and an excellent listener. (Many people in religious communities really do fit this description.) Look for someone who will provide a healthy balance of authentic feedback and unconditional emotional support.
It Doesn’t Have to Be, ‘My Needs Vs. My Beliefs’
If you believe that you need something which your values or principles oppose, you’re bound to feel stuck in an impossible situation. Rest assured, your pregnancy decision-making process doesn’t have to be a battle between your perceived needs and your spiritual beliefs. It is possible to stick with your principles while getting your needs met. Challenge yourself to look at your needs and your overall situation with an open-minded, solutions-focused perspective. You can start by asking yourself questions like these:
- “Why do I believe that I need an abortion?”
- “Would I still want an abortion if I felt like my needs were being met?”
- “Are there alternative ways to get my needs met? If so, what are they?”
People feel a need to have abortions for all kinds of valid reasons. Financial, relational, and health-related concerns are all very prevalent. Many women find themselves in extremely difficult situations, with very limited support networks. Their needs are real and significant. But sometimes, fear can create a sense of tunnel vision that makes it difficult to notice other potential solutions. As you engage in your own decision-making process, consider all the options and resources available to you. It’s better to approach a problem feeling equipped with knowledge, rather than backed into a corner.
Our expert staff at Avenue is available to go over all your pregnancy options with you, including the processes and risks involved with different abortion procedures. We’re also here to provide information on a wealth of resources in the Chicagoland area. Our role is to be a neutral sounding board and source of unconditional support as you assess which pregnancy outcome is uniquely right for you. We believe that you’re completely capable of making a decision that meets your needs and aligns with your principles- because both are critical. You have what it takes to find that balance!
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The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.