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“I’ll Tell My Partner About the Abortion Later”

It’s normal for women to feel overwhelmed after learning about an unexpected pregnancy. As you think about what to do, abortion may be an option you’ve considered. Perhaps you’re worried about how your partner will react. Or maybe he’s just not physically or emotionally available. It’s possible you’ve considered not involving him in your abortion decision. Venturing through an unexpected pregnancy alone can be challenging. There’s typically a lot of information to gather as you process your options. You may be hesitant to tell your partner you’re pregnant. But is there someone you can reach out to for nonjudgmental support?

Are you considering having an abortion without telling your partner? Avenue Women’s Center understands each woman’s situation is unique. We are here to work with you as you figure out the best way to move forward. Within a confidential environment, we’ll provide you with reliable information about all of your options. Our expert pregnancy consultants will listen to any of your concerns. During your appointment, we can answer your questions about abortion, the different types of procedures, and abortion alternatives. We can meet with you for a one-on-one consultation, or serve as a mediator between you and another party.

Contact us today to discuss your options with our caring staff!

What If I Don’t Tell My Partner About the Unexpected Pregnancy?

No matter your relationship, sharing life-changing news with your partner can be intimidating. You may be wondering if you should even tell him. If this is the case, why? It may be a good idea to ask yourself what your reasons are for keeping the pregnancy a secret. This may help you determine if you want your partner involved after all.

  • What is your relationship like? Have you been together for a short-term or a long-term? Are you still currently together?
  • Does it feel like he’s too busy to handle the pregnancy news right now? Has he given any previous indicators that he will not be receptive to pregnancy or having an abortion?
  • Have you ever discussed the possibility of pregnancy before? How might you work together to form a plan?
  • Is there a personal or professional resource available? Should you talk with a counselor or a pregnancy consultant?

You may feel an assortment of emotions while considering your options. Would it help to have your partner’s support? If you’re still conflicted about telling him, it may be helpful to talk this through with someone.

Should I Tell My Partner I’m Considering Abortion?

Considerations Before an Abortion

Women who consider abortion as an option often have to make preparations. Have you weighed the pros and cons behind each of your three options? You may also need to decide if you’re going to have a surgical or medical abortion (the abortion pill). Do you understand the differences between these procedures? Would you feel more comfortable with one or the other?

You may also need to familiarize yourself with your state’s abortion laws. When is the gestational limit on abortion? Where can you find this information? And how can you learn how far along you are to see if you still qualify for an abortion?

But there’s also what happens afterward. How will you feel? Will you need any additional treatment for possible side effects? Would you want someone to be there with you after the abortion?

Partner Considerations

Before making a decision, consider how your partner will react. If he finds out about the abortion later, how will he feel? Will there be any conflict because he was not let in on the plan? Every woman’s situation is unique. Still, it’s usually worth it to learn more and explore your feelings first.

Many questions are often tied to an abortion decision. There’s typically a lot to process. You may have a lot of complicated feelings. And you deserve to know you have time to sit and explore them.

It’s not uncommon for women to wonder what role they want their partner to play in their unexpected pregnancy journey. Avenue Women’s Center can work with you as you contemplate your next steps. Receive a free, limited ultrasound to find out more information, such as your pregnancy’s gestational age. It will also alert you to early pregnancy risks such as miscarriage or an ectopic pregnancy. This will let you know if your pregnancy is likely to continue or what abortion options may be available to you. Process your decision with one of our expert pregnancy consultants. Get the facts and support you need to make an informed choice.  

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The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.