Being in a committed relationship with another person is no easy task. When it comes to looking out for somebody other than ourselves, there’s often more responsibility and more things to consider when making decisions in daily life. Doing life with another person usually means we have goals and dreams with that person as well. Sometimes those goals and dreams include children, and sometimes they don’t. Or, maybe it’s a “not-yet-but-maybe-later” sort of thing. If you fall into one of the latter categories and find yourself unexpectedly pregnant, it’s possible you might be dealing with some difficult emotions. Being married doesn’t make you immune to grappling with the potential stress of an unexpected pregnancy.
It can be difficult to deal with an unexpected pregnancy when you’re not ready for it. Even if you’re married, perhaps you envisioned this happening a bit down the road, but not now. As you sort through your questions, emotions, and options, Avenue Women’s Center is here to partner with you and offer resources you might be in need of. Our professional pregnancy consultants would love to sit down and listen to your story and help you formulate your next steps.
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Considering Your Options
When facing an unexpected pregnancy, it’s usually safe to assume this wasn’t part of the plan. Maybe you do want to be pregnant one day, but today isn’t that day. Or maybe you and your spouse both agreed that pregnancy wasn’t part of your marriage goals or dreams.
If you feel that now isn’t the right time for pregnancy, it can be helpful to ask yourself what situations and conditions are you in now that are only temporary? Would you and your spouse be able to handle a pregnancy now? How do you envision your circumstances being different in the future?
Wherever you find yourself, it’s important to weigh your options and make a decision with your spouse. It’s always helpful to gather information about your choices. Process through your questions together when you have the time and space to listen and discuss without distractions.
What are your and your spouse’s values? How might an abortion line up with or deter your goals? How would you feel about an abortion a year from now? 5 years? 10?
Would you and your spouse be comfortable with making an adoption plan? Do you know what adoption options there are? How might you deal with adoption in a year? 5 years?
Is this option feasible? Do you and your spouse have a support system and the resources necessary to raise a child? If not, do you know how to find the support and resources you need? What might you enjoy about parenting?
Whatever you decide, it’s important to consider your thoughts and feelings as well as your spouse’s. As a married couple, it’s crucial to make decisions together for the best of both of you. Sometimes talking with an expert like a pregnancy consultant is helpful in adding new perspective to your situation and goals.
If you’re struggling with a pregnancy decision and need some guidance, Avenue Women’s Center is here for you. We know how difficult an unexpected pregnancy can be and, even more, how stressful making a decision often is! We’ve been walking this path with women and men since 1981 and would love to walk with you and your spouse. We strive to maintain your personal health and privacy by offering limited medical services and confidential consultations. Our pregnancy consultants would love to sit down and chat with you.
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The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.