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My Partner and I Agree on Abortion

Going through the decision-making process with your partner following the news of an unexpected pregnancy can be difficult. It can raise conflicting and sometimes confusing emotions, and you and your partner may feel anxious about the situation. It’s normal to be a little scared if you feel unprepared for a challenging circumstance. This is why it can be important for you both to work together as you think about your options. While the two of you might have begun to lean towards abortion, there may still be questions. You may have concerns about your relationship and what choice is best for you both at this point in time. As you consider your decision, what steps can you and your partner begin to take?

If you and your partner have just learned about an unexpected pregnancy, you may be wondering what to do. If you and your partner are in agreement about abortion, Avenue Women’s Center can offer your next steps. We provide relevant information and confidential support at our six centers in DuPage County. Our expert staff can address your questions about abortion, the different types of procedures, as well as potential alternatives. We can even sit down with you and your partner for a private consultation to discuss your options in a nonjudgmental environment.

Contact us today for reliable information and support at no cost!

How to Think About Your Pregnancy Decision With Your Partner  

The way you and your partner react to the news of an unexpected pregnancy often depends on the status of your relationship. Have you only just started dating? Or have you been together for months or years? This can have an effect on the way you two communicate with one another. You have three options, each carrying their own unique set of pros and cons. So, weighing your decision carefully can be important.

While you may agree on abortion at the moment, have you both taken the time to explore why? By allowing yourselves a moment to discuss it, you can see if this is an option you’re both receptive to. Sometimes it happens in a pregnancy decision where one person is hesitant to voice disagreement out of fear of upsetting the other person in the relationship. Or they may think they’re doing exactly what their partner wants. But, alternatively, because they haven’t talked about their feelings, on the flip side, the other person in the relationship may think they’re doing what their partner wants.

Being able to talk openly about any concerns you have about being pregnant and ask questions of your partner about how they feel can play an important role in your decision. To help you both communicate clearly with one another, having an unbiased mediator sit down with you can lead to a healthy conversation about your choices. This third party may come in the form of a counselor, a spiritual leader, or a pregnancy consultant.

What Questions Should We Ask About Abortion and Alternatives?

As you work with each other to understand the emotional journey that pregnancy can entail, it may be a good idea to write out some questions. Instead of keeping these things locked up in your mind while hoping to remember them, laying everything out in the open may help you see things more clearly. Once you have your list of questions, you and your partner can talk about these things not only with each other but during a consultation with a professional resource.

Some of the questions on your list may include:

  • Have my partner and I given ourselves permission to explore all of our options, and how we feel about each one?
  • What do we need to know regarding abortion costs, the different types of procedures, and the laws governing abortion in our state?
  • Is there any information we should learn about my health before we proceed with an abortion, such as ruling out early pregnancy complications through an ultrasound exam?
  • How can my partner and I look out for each other emotionally, and how will this choice impact our relationship?

Contemplating an Abortion Decision With Your Partner

The decision-making process can seem overwhelming. But there is guidance available to help the two of you navigate through what may be a challenging period. If you’ve yet to move forward with one of your options, then it’s recommended during this stage the two of you work out how to talk to one another openly. This may involve letting someone else in on the process. And, while you may be hesitant to do this at first, having someone you both trust navigate you through this time can ease some of the tension.

Are you and your partner contemplating how to make an abortion decision? Avenue Women’s Center is here to work with you both. We offer reliable information and confidential support. Through our limited medical services, you can learn more about how far along you are or any early pregnancy risks. In a free pregnancy consultation appointment, you and your partner can sort through your options and address your individual concerns.

Reach out today to begin communicating with one of our caring pregnancy consultants!

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.