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My Partner Wanted a Pregnancy, Now He Wants Me to Abort

Sometimes, here at Avenue Women’s Center, we will see women who were originally excited about a pregnancy, but due to a change in circumstances, they may now be considering abortion. For some women their partner initially wanted to continue the pregnancy, but then changed his mind, and now wants her to terminate. What happens when suddenly and unexpectedly, you are finding yourself faced with a decision to continue a pregnancy without the support of your partner?

Avenue Women’s Center is here to help. We have been assisting women facing unexpected pregnancy since 1981. We understand that each woman’s situation is unique and brings its own set of challenges. Our client advocates are here to provide you with the information and support you need to move forward in your pregnancy decision—with our without the support of your partner. Contact us today for an appointment at one of our six Chicagoland locations.

Partner Changed His Mind: What Next?

Pregnancy can bring about a wave of different emotions. It can be especially difficult if you had one plan in mind at the beginning and suddenly, things changed. How do you take the next steps in your pregnancy decision when you are uncertain of your partner’s support? What happens when your partner wanted to continue the pregnancy, but now wants you to have an abortion?

Identifying Your Next Steps: Pregnancy Options

Women basically have 3 options to be considered for their pregnancy – 1) to carry and parent, 2) to carry and form an adoption plan or 3) to terminate, or have an abortion. Often, having the support of one’s partner has a huge impact on the decision a woman makes for her pregnancy. If partners don’t agree on a pregnancy option, then the decision made can often have a big impact on their relationship. Regardless of whether or not you have the support of your partner, we have found over the years that a woman will ultimately feel most at peace when she takes adequate time to evaluate all her options. This means understanding how the pregnancy is developing and assessing the impact of her decision: physically, emotionally, financially, in her relationship, and possibly her religion or faith.

Here are some areas of consideration when gathering information regarding your pregnancy options:

Physical Considerations

  • How far along am I in this pregnancy? What are my early pregnancy risks?
  • Are my options affected by how far along I am in this pregnancy?
  • How is my health and wellbeing?
  • Do I have physical conditions that need to be considered and/or monitored during pregnancy?
  • How would each of the options—parenting, adoption, and abortion—affect me physically?

Emotional Considerations

  • What are the emotional benefits and drawbacks to each of my options?
  • How would my decision affect me in the short term? How would my decision affect me longer term?
  • Will my decision have an impact on my relationships? With my boyfriend/spouse/partner? With my family? In what way?
  • Am I being pressured to make a particular decision? How will I feel about myself and the other person if I make a decision because of his or her pressure?
  • How do my faith or religious beliefs impact my decision?

Financial Considerations

  • What is the financial impact of each of my options?
  • What resources do I have available to me now?
  • Do I have friends or family who will support me in my decision?
  • Are there other community resources or agencies available to me that could help?

If your partner wanted to continue the pregnancy, but is now asking for an abortion, you are not alone. Avenue Women’s Center can provide you with the services and information you need regarding your pregnancy options in a caring, confidential environment. Address any questions or concerns you may have with our expert staff during a free consultation. Call, chat, email, or text for an appointment today.

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.

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