Complex emotions can follow the news of an unexpected pregnancy. In addition, through no fault of their own, some women face the challenge of an uninvolved partner. The emotional reaction a partner has to this life-changing news can be similar to what you felt when you first learned you were pregnant – scared, confused, surprised, and maybe even a little frustrated. If he decides to not be around as you go through this, it’s normal to feel lost and a little bit alone. You may even be weighing your options differently after learning that he planned not to be involved. What options are available to you if you find yourself going through an unexpected pregnancy without your partner? Also, who can you rely on for help during this time?
Do you feel like your pregnancy options have been influenced by the involvement of your partner (or lack thereof)? Avenue Women’s Center has been providing confidential support and assistance to women in all kinds of unexpected pregnancy circumstances since 1981. Our client advocates will take the time to get to know you. Receive a private consultation to address your concerns and get reliable information about your options. Connecting you to helpful resources, we ensure you have access to affordable services and care.
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Acknowledging Your Feelings
Feeling like you are navigating an unexpected pregnancy without the support of a partner can bring about feelings of grief. Grief can come in all different shapes and forms, accompanying any type of loss. There may be sadness over the loss of a relationship. Or, perhaps it’s more about the loss of a future you had anticipated for yourself.
No matter what your relationship with your partner might have been, working up the courage to tell him you were pregnant probably took a lot of preparation. It’s likely it was a nerve-wracking experience for you. It can be devastating if, after all that planning, your partner chooses to not be a part of this decision.
Imagine walking down a staircase in the dark. In your blindness, you think there’s one more step than there actually is. When you attempt to put your foot down with the expectation that it will meet a solid surface, instead, all it touches is air. There’s likely a moment of surprise. Then, some brief stumbling as you try to recover your balance, your senses adjusting themselves to the darkness after your almost fall.
Picture this, and you may find it represents how you feel about your partner’s choice. His reasoning may have stemmed from fears about responsibility and commitment. But it’s still okay to acknowledge your disappointment, as well as any worries you may have regarding your situation. Understanding these emotions can help you begin to analyze how you feel about the pregnancy. You can start to think about how the information you learn can be applied to the option you may be considering.
Locating Emotional Support
It’s recommended you give yourself a moment to breathe and gently talk yourself through what’s happening. This can be hard to do alone. When faced with circumstances that may be strenuous, it can be helpful to have a supportive network to lean on. Have you told your friends and family the news yet? If you’re hesitant to reach out to them right now, have you considered contacting a counselor, a pregnancy consultant, or a support group within your community?
By having the opportunity to share your concerns and receive information about options and resources, the anticipated loneliness of your journey can be lessened. You may have a lot of questions about how to even begin when it comes to making a choice. You may wonder what steps you need to take when it comes to moving forward with a decision. This can be a confusing period of your life. There may be a lot of conflicting emotions and second-guessing as you weigh the pros and cons behind your three options.
Pregnancy Decision Without Partner
Before telling your partner about the pregnancy, had you been leaning towards abortion, adoption, or parenting? As you consider the long-term outcomes of each decision, do you feel as if you’re considering something different now that he made his stance clear? If yes, was this change brought on by your own desires? Or is something else influencing you?
It’s not uncommon for women to have concerns about how they will manage an unexpected pregnancy,. This is something new that can seem a little scary. But you do not have to face this alone. Locating people who can come alongside through this journey can be a productive first step. While there may still be challenges to overcome, a compassionate support team can be there to alleviate fears and partner with you for the rest of the way.
If you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy without your partner, you may be wondering what to do and how you will get through this. Avenue Women’s Center can answer your questions about abortion, adoption, and parenting. We’ll equip you with a thorough understanding of your potential choices. Receive limited medical services and additional resources. We connect women to areas of support to ensure they have access to the care they need. We’re in this together.
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The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.