Every woman deserves to make her own pregnancy decision free from pressure or coercion. In fact, being pressured into an abortion is a risk factor for facing mental health complications after an abortion-which is why it’s essential to make your own pregnancy decision.
Below are some common signs that you’re being pressured and what you can do to reclaim your decision-making power.
Common Signs of Pressure
- Emotional manipulation: If someone is using guilt, fear, or shame to influence your decision, this is a form of emotional manipulation. Phrases like, “You’ll ruin your future,” or, “You’ll disappoint everyone,” are meant to sway you rather than support you.
- Ultimatums or threats: Being told, “If you don’t get an abortion, I’m leaving,” or receiving threats to withdraw financial or emotional support are clear signs of coercion.
- Isolation: Someone might discourage you from seeking advice or connecting with supportive resources, aiming to limit your perspective and options.
- Rushed decisions: Feeling forced to make a quick choice without time to consider your feelings and options is another red flag. A major decision like this deserves time and careful thought.
What You Can Do
- Pause and reflect: Give yourself the time and space to think about what you truly want. Your feelings and values should be at the center of your decision.
- Seek support: Connect with people or organizations that support your autonomy, like Avenue Women’s Center. We offer a safe, non-judgmental space to talk through your feelings and explore your options.
- Educate yourself: Learn about all your pregnancy options: parenting, adoption, and abortion. Having accurate information will help ensure you make a fully informed decision.
- Set boundaries: It’s okay to distance yourself from anyone who makes you feel pressured-and instead, to surround yourself with those who respect your ability to make the best choice for you.
*Some coercion is abusive or covers up abuse. If you believe that you are being abused and/or that your safety is at risk, call 911 or contact local law enforcement immediately. To get connected with support, reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
We’re Here for You
At Avenue Women’s Center, we understand that navigating an unexpected pregnancy can feel overwhelming-and it’s all the more confusing when you’re feeling pressured by your family or friends.
You don’t have to face this alone. We’re here to support you in a safe, nonjudgmental environment. Contact us today to learn about all the ways we’re here to help during an unexpected pregnancy and beyond.
The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.