It was just one night. One moment in time you shared with another person. Maybe your partner was a friend, or someone you just met. But just that one time of sexual intercourse can result in a pregnancy, leaving you with an unexpected choice to make. You might be strongly considering an abortion if you find yourself in this situation, left with more questions about your next steps than answers.
If you think you might be pregnant from a one-night stand and are considering an abortion, take the first steps of finding out at Avenue Women’s Center. We offer free, medical grade pregnancy tests and private pregnancy consultations to discuss your results and pregnancy options- including abortion, adoption, and parenting. Reach out to us today and set up your free appointment at one of our five DuPage County locations!
Choosing to Speak Up
Getting pregnant from a one-night stand can raise some tough questions. Do you involve your partner in your pregnancy decision? Do you tell them you’re considering abortion? Do you even tell them you’re pregnant? Would they even want to know? What if you don’t know how to reach them? Do you take the time and effort to find them? How could they potentially affect your pregnancy decision with their thoughts and feelings? If they wanted the pregnancy to continue, would it make you rethink your abortion option?
It can be difficult to raise these questions in your mind, and even harder to answer them. You’re trying to wrap your own head around a pregnancy and a possible abortion decision. How can you face the reaction of telling someone else about it? You have no idea how your partner is going to take the news, and this extra unknown element can complicate an already tough decision. Your partner might have questions of their own to ask and consider.
You have no legal obligation to tell your partner, but wondering if they have a right to know is another story. How would you want to be treated if you were on their side of things? Before you make assumptions, put yourself in their shoes. Would you at least want the opportunity to know what’s happening? The chance to be supportive in a tough decision? Even if they opt out of involvement or have a different opinion than yours, do you give them the option to decide?
The Choice Is Yours
Whether you decide to tell your partner or not, a pregnancy decision is ultimately yours to make. No one else can or should make this choice for you. A pregnancy decision in any situation should be free of outside pressures to choose one option over another. This is ultimately your choice to make. Telling your one-night stand partner won’t change this fact.
But it can be overwhelming to face a choice about abortion. Slow down and take a breath for yourself before you open up to your partner. There are important questions to ask yourself, with your own answers to give before considering another person in the mix. What are your thoughts and feelings about having an abortion? What are the fundamental reasons you’re considering it? How do you know for sure if it’s the best option for you? What are some things that could help you sift through the uncertainty? Does abortion feel like the only option?
As you confront the hard questions of an unexpected pregnancy decision, answer them with complete honesty. Think ahead of potential outcomes, not just from a current perspective as you dig into the answers. You can’t know for sure what is to come, but your own heart and mind can help guide you to the right answers for you. Also, many women find it beneficial to talk to a trusted person or seek outside help to learn more about their pregnancy options. Even with a pregnancy from a one-night stand, there are options to consider. Abortion is one of them. But so is adoption, parenting, and possibly even co-parenting if your partner wants to be involved. It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers right now, or if your answers shift with a mix of emotions. Take the time to consider your options and learn all the facts before you decide. You can and will face this pregnancy decision and make your best choice.
This pregnancy choice is yours to make, but you don’t have to face it on your own. At Avenue Women’s Center, we understand that each pregnancy situation has its own challenges, and we care about providing you with nonjudgmental and empathetic support. For over 35 years we’ve helped women face the unexpected with our pregnancy services, offered at no cost to you. Take the first steps in your decision with a free, medical grade pregnancy test. Our compassionate and expert client advocates will discuss your results and abortion information and alternatives in a confidential pregnancy consultation. Call, text, chat, or email us to learn more about how we can support you as you face a tough pregnancy decision.
The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.