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When You Want Things to Go Back to the Way They Were

At some point or another, haven’t we all had the desire for things to go back to the way they were? Enough of us have had that feeling that if you google it – or something similar – you’ll find quotes and song lyrics, essays, articles, and observations. Lots of them! What is the catalyst for this feeling? It might be trouble with a relationship, a change in our work, a financial crisis, or just a reminiscence of the past. Something else that could certainly cause one to want things to go back to the way they were is an unplanned pregnancy.

For the challenge of an unplanned pregnancy, Avenue Women’s Center can’t turn back the clock and re-write history. We can wish it could be done, but time-travel happens only in science fiction. However, we can and will continue in our commitment to serve as the first step for Chicagoland women facing an unintended pregnancy. Avenue Women’s Center is a non-profit limited women’s clinic with assistance and services needed at this difficult time. Among these are a medical grade pregnancy test, and a private, no-obligation pregnancy consultation with a caring, nonjudgmental client advocate. These, and many of our services, are free; all are completely confidential. Please call, text, email or chat with us today for an appointment at one of our five DuPage County locations.

There’s good news and bad news about wanting things to go back to the way they were.

Good: It’s encouraging that things in your life were positive enough that you would want to return to them. Generally, our desire to turn back the hands of time is due to a current situation or crisis that is bringing about pain. If you’re reading our blog today, it’s most likely due to an unplanned pregnancy. So, although it’s difficult to see a way forward at this time, perhaps you can take a moment to appreciate what is “going right” rather than focus on what feels so wrong.

Bad: It’s not possible to flip a switch and go back to a happier—pre-pregnancy—place and time. Regrettable as it may sometimes be, reality is what it is; the future is ahead and it will eventually come. Finally acknowledging that to “want things to go back to the way they were” is not an option leads to the inevitable realization that decisions must be made. What you decide and “where you go from here” are critically important; they will continue with you into that future, one way or another.

So what can be done to make a determination for the best possible outcome? Acknowledging the reality of your situation is a good start. Denial will only get you so far. Reminiscing is fun and enjoyable, but can keep us from moving forward if we stay in that mental space. Begin by gathering information and resources to help you in your decision-making. Talk with trusted family members and friends. Reach out to a pregnancy-focused organization like Avenue Women’s Center for services, information, and support geared towards your situation.

At Avenue Women’s Center we understand that every woman’s situation is unique. There is no one-size-fits-all solution. Each individual needs to identify her own course of action as well as she can. At the same, we know the importance of having honest, accurate information about all options available. We can help with that. We promise to listen well, to explain options, and to walk beside you as you navigate the choices before you. Please contact us. It will be our honor to make this forward-looking journey with you.

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.