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Wrestling with Mixed Feelings About Abortion

If you’re coping with an unexpected pregnancy today, know that it’s normal to have mixed feelings about your pregnancy options.  Figuring out the best way forward can be a complex process for some.  Your pregnancy journey may feel uncomfortable at times, but the fact that you’re sorting through your thoughts and emotions shows that you’re considering your best outcome with care.  And that’s a healthy place to start!

Perhaps abortion is an option, but your feelings about ending the pregnancy are many-sided.  You may be wrestling with diverse emotions (like anxiety, anger, and/or excitement) that seem to be clouding your vision.  Maybe your emotions, logic, and beliefs are pulling you in different directions.  None of this is easy to navigate.  However, it is possible to find clarity and lean into your most positive outcome with confidence.

Human beings are complex.  So are most unexpected pregnancy situations.  It’s not surprising, then, that the pregnancy decision-making process can be complicated too.  Here’s the good news: there are practical steps you can take to discover your best way forward.  Avenue Women’s Center exists to partner with you in this step-by-step process.  We provide free early pregnancy support to help you on your journey with an informed point of view and a strong foundation of care.

Learn more about Avenue’s no-cost, confidential services!  These include medical-grade pregnancy tests, limited medical ultrasounds, abortion information, and more!

Learning the Facts: Always a Wise Next Move

Gathering clear, unbiased facts is a great way to move forward, whether you’re confident in your pregnancy plan or not, no matter how far along you are in your decision-making process.  Here are some important questions to ask.  The answers will probably help illuminate your path!

How far along am I?

How far the pregnancy has developed will influence what kind of abortion(s) you’re eligible for.

Where is my pregnancy located?

An ectopic pregnancy is a pregnancy located outside of the uterus.  This is important to be aware of no matter which option(s) you’re considering, because this situation poses a serious risk to your health.  You would need to seek immediate medical attention outside of an abortion if an ectopic pregnancy was indicated.

Is my pregnancy viable?

What’s the possibility of this pregnancy continuing on its own?  What are your personal chances of miscarriage?

*All three of these questions (how far along you are, the location of your pregnancy, and its viability) can be answered by getting a limited medical ultrasound at some early pregnancy centers, like Avenue, or at a doctor’s office.

What are all my options?

Every person experiencing an unexpected pregnancy has three big ones: abortion, adoption, and parenting.  There may be options within your options too (for example, medical vs. surgical abortion and open or semi-open vs. closed adoption).

What are my available resources?

You may already have personal resources (practical and/or emotional) to help you through this process, no matter which way you’re leaning.  Most communities offer additional resources (like financial support or health care assistance).  Sometimes, resources open doors that would otherwise be closed.

*A pregnancy consultant at Avenue can provide accurate, up-to-date information on all your options and resources.

What personal health factors are relevant?

Abortion isn’t a healthy option for everyone.  Some personal health factors (like certain medical conditions or medications) may influence whether abortion is a safe route for you.

*It’s always best to speak with a medical professional about personal health factors.  If you need help finding one in the Chicagoland area, Avenue can help.

If you’ve gathered the facts and you’re still wrestling with mixed feelings, that’s okay.  This may indicate that you need more time to process your pregnancy decision.  Most persons discover their pregnancy early enough that they have weeks to do that before becoming ineligible for some of their options, like the abortion pill (which is FDA-approved through the tenth week).  For some women, it’s helpful to bounce thoughts and feelings off a supportive, trustworthy ally- like a family member, mentor, or professional counselor.  Our expert staff at Avenue is available to fill that role in your pregnancy journey too.  Avenue is a safe space to seek help and discover caring support, never judgment. 

Reach out to learn more and schedule an appointment! This pregnancy choice is yours to make.  It’s our job to equip you with everything you need to make that decision from a position of knowledge and strength.

The information provided here is general in nature.  It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center.  If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention.  Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.