Are you facing an unexpected pregnancy in a loosely defined relationship? Maybe you consider your partner a friend, but there’s obvious chemistry between you. Or, perhaps you’d like this connection to become something more, but he doesn’t feel ready to “label” the relationship. It’s also possible that you enjoy each other’s companionship, although neither of you has any desire to “formalize” things.
A “situationship” is a relationship that has romantic or sexual undertones, but lacks a firm, “official” commitment. Relationships that fit this description are becoming more common in our modern world. Consequently, so are unexpected pregnancies that happen within these contexts. If you’re in a situationship (or if you suspect that you are), it’s important to consider the unique implications of this during an unexpected pregnancy. Just remember that you’re capable of discovering your own best outcome- no matter how confusing your circumstances may feel or how clouded your future may seem.
Avenue Women’s Center is all about bringing calmness and clarity to situations just like yours. We’re a first-step pregnancy clinic that meets women where they are, and equips them with the tools they need to take their next best steps. Our expert pregnancy consultants and medical professionals are committed to providing our free and confidential services with compassion, professionalism, and transparency. We’re truly a judgment-free zone!
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Your Relationship Status and Your Partner’s Response
So, how can managing an unexpected pregnancy in a situationship be different than managing these circumstances in a more traditional relationship? If you and your significant other are in a situationship, one or both of you may feel less invested in the bond that you share. This means your partner may be less likely to offer practical and emotional support during your pregnancy and beyond. He may also be less likely to assert his own will as you decide between abortion, adoption, and parenting. Your reaction to his reaction is bound to be complex as well. Let’s say, hypothetically, that you don’t see a future with him. If he neglects to show a strong attachment to your relationship (or the pregnancy), you may find this very hurtful. But, you may also feel somewhat relieved.
Starting a Dialogue About Your Unique Situation
The keywords here are “may” and “might.” No reaction is guaranteed, and every situation is unique. Many people in situationships are just as “bought-in” (or more so) than people in dating relationships or even marriages. Your partner’s response to your pregnancy will depend on many factors, including his personality, temperament, beliefs, desires, and past experiences. You won’t know how he feels or how he’ll respond until you start a dialogue with him. So, if you feel safe approaching him with news of your pregnancy, consider having a conversation. Respectfully share your feelings, desires, and expectations, and give him space to share his. Talk through the complexities that may be involved in your unique situation. Chances are, this won’t be an easy discussion. But it will probably help you gauge where your partner’s head is at, and maybe even create a sense of unity and understanding.
Check out some of our other blogs for tips on navigating these conversations!
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A Final Word
Like any woman who’s facing an unexpected pregnancy, you have full autonomy over your decision-making process. No matter what the future holds for your relationship, or how your partner reacts to your pregnancy news, it’s vital to make a choice that comes from your own heart and mind. Don’t let his reaction or potential reaction drive your next steps. Instead, gather reliable information about your options. Learn about your unique pregnancy. Empower yourself with the facts and support you need to make a confident choice, one you believe you’ll be able to look back on with peace of mind.
Avenue Women’s Center is here to provide that kind of support, free of costs, conditions, or pressure. We offer consultations to review the processes and risks involved with abortion, adoption, and parenting (including different abortion procedures and types of adoption plans). We also provide limited medical ultrasounds to identify 3 key pieces of information: 1) the location of your pregnancy (to rule out ectopic pregnancy), 2) how far along you are (to determine your options), and 3) your chances of miscarriage. All our services are free, because we believe that no barrier- financial or otherwise- should get in the way of an informed pregnancy decision.
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The information provided here is general in nature. It is not a substitute for a consultation with a medical professional. Before any medical procedure, it is imperative that you discuss your personal medical history, risks, and concerns with your doctor. If you have questions during or after a procedure, your doctor should be immediately contacted. Avenue Women’s Center is not an emergency center. If you are experiencing severe symptoms, such as bleeding and/or pain, seek immediate medical attention. Contact your physician, go to an emergency room, or call 911.